Happily married?  You're Joking!

                                     Yes, if you are happy with your sex and sexuality

"The problem with most people is that they treat sexuality according  to how it suits them, according to their whims and desire, according to what their human reasoning dictates to them. This is the most common reason why you would fail in your sexuality or your marriage. Most people treat sexuality as something they can toy with. Most people enter marriage which is divinely established unworthily.  By unworthily I mean by their preconceived human idea on how they would conduct their marriage and not according to how God would want people to treat it.

What I have found is that if you are to be happy as a human being, you can not treat yourself alone. You cannot live by yourself alone. You cannot imprison yourself in your own world alone. Because God created man to be male and female, He has meant them to be social beings. As I have said earlier, this is verified in the need of man to have someone to talk to, to relate to, as has been exemplified in the movie “Castaway”. This is the last bastion of his sanity.

To be happy is to have someone you could relate to in love.

Although you have to treat every other human being as yourself to be happy, it is in your sexual partner that you would feel and experience the utmost joy and happiness in the expression of love. Because you are related to him or her not only as a person, but you are one with her or him in the body. The body has that quality as decisive criterion of reality. When you want to test whether what you are seeing is not imaginary but real, you probe it by trying to touch it. You cannot verify an object by touch unless that object is a body, a ‘rock-solid’ reality.

When your sexual partner accepted you by her/his “yes” as a person, all your veil of anticipation and imaginings gave way to the baring of fulfilment and realisation. All of this joy is finally crowned into a happy state by you being united not only as a person but also by being joined with her or him in the body. So they said that sexual intercourse is like heaven here on earth. Marriage is really meant to be that way by the Creator. Because it is the replica of the Divine nature of God who is the source of all happiness. You would find your marriage that way, had you entered it worthily and followed the order that God has meant it to be.

When you would have conducted your marriage according to God’s plan and order, you will find that your partner is a test of happiness. It would be him or her who could tell you whether what I am writing in this book about sexuality and happiness is true or not. It would be your sexual partner who could tell and testify to you whether what the world presents as an objective is the real thing that gives happiness or not; whether it be knowledge, power, money or riches, fame, honour, sex or virtue. It would be your partner who would tell you that love is the source of happiness and that the love is real and true because it is sourced from the real source of all real love that exists, and that is from God.

When you relate yourself to God, you would consider yourself not solely but as a unit with your partner. Your partner is your care before God, because your partner is your test of happiness. Happiness follows according as the love between you flows according as you conduct yourselves to the order that God has put in both of you. You would consider him or her as your better half, because you accept that happiness is all there is that you live for.

When all these orders happen according to what it was meant to be, you will find that sexuality for you and your partner is a source of enjoyment, life and happiness not only for yourselves but also for others, beginning with your family, then your community, then the world at large. If this world would have to be changed for a better, happy world, it would begin in you, as married man as one unit in being male and female.

It is in your choice and capacity to live life for what it was meant to be. It is in your choice to treat your partner as your better or bitter half, depending on how you conform to God’s order or not. Because of this choice you have all the hope to live life for what it was meant to be.

If you remember the story about the generators and turbine in a power-plant in the topic “How To Be Happy With Others”, to be a man for others is the way to enjoying your life to the full. This happens because like the working turbine you let flow the love of God through you to others. In your interaction with your partner, as a unit you become like that working turbine; you can give life to a city to make it fully alive. Your sexuality then becomes a source of life not only to both of you but also to those around you. That’s the way to become happy because you multiply love that is true as it flows from its true source, God Himself who first loved you in creating you.

As a rule of thumb, for you to be happy as a man, you could be happy only not in considering yourself only without considering your sexual partner. If you are to be happy completely, your partner should be happy with you.

This is the innovative way of thinking for you to follow so as to have a new happy life." (Excerpt from my book: New Light, New Life, New You!, please click on the link to get access to it.)

Terrorism? How would you solve it?

We are in the times when terrorists lurk where and when we don't know when they will strike again.

It cast fear on all of us. That's what we are human as we are. To be alive and to continue living without interruption is what we desire. We don't like to die. So it makes all people united in combatting this trouble that beset us.  All countries have set in their own place and premises, all the means needed to counteract such atrocity.  

It is a law in nature that every action has a counter reaction. The reaction is equal to the action to even it out. So if someone tries to kill us our tendency is to retaliate by killing him too.

So in counteracting and solving the problem of this terrorism, the most common feeling is to eliminate those terrorists by killing them.

What will happen then? It will evoke a counter reaction. It may increase more their number with their intent to terrorise, or the intensity of their action will increase. More people would die.

But as we have said earlier, to live and continue living is the natural desire that we would like to happen. So such solution as most people feel is not the way to go to solve it.

To solve such problem, the reaction to such action should be one of greater power or force than terrorism itself.

Terrorism involves two elements which cause us trouble: that of casting fear on us and making us dead.

What reaction could much greater than the elements of terrorism, but the power that makes us live, and the force that casts away fear?

Such power cannot come but from the Creator Himself from whom all good that are, have come to be. All life and living substances including us that are good could not have come from nowhere but from Someone greater than us.

If we look into ourselves, the only purpose why we live and do what we do has but one purpose, for us to be happy. What is to be happy? To be in the possession of all that is really good.   

Such purpose in us could not have been there unless the Prime Giver who shared it to us doesn’t have quality. Because the attribute of being happy is to share, to multiply itself. That is the very reason why we exist and we live.

A few days before the terrorist stroke in Paris, there was similar terrorist attack that happened in Beirut.  To foil the intent of one of the terrorist to kill more people, a man heedless of danger to himself, plunged himself into the terrorist to stop him, ending his own life.

What could have motivated such heroic act of that man? His care for saving more lives has been has been greater than the fear for saving his own. Such reaction is an example of a greater power and force than terrorism itself.

Such reaction comes from our inner desire for happiness, to be in the possession of the greatest Good, who is God Himself, who is the author of life; who can raise a dead man back to life.

We call such action as love. Love is the tendency of our will to what is good, being enamoured of it. Love for a greater good impels one to do heroic act, a force much greater than the element of terrorism itself, because of that innate longing in us to be happy.  “For you to be happy is to be full of love. … the greatest loss and cause of sadness is the absence of love because it would mean that one doesn’t feel worth anything. To be happy is the opposite.”(Elijah Mcleon; New Light, New Life, New You; Amazon Kindle edition, Sept. 3, 2015, location 388.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014W4NVLO?*Version*=1&*entries*=0)

To solve the problem of terrorism is to love the terrorists. To convert the terrorist into what they are supposed to be, to be what God has created them to be, which is to be happy.

“Do I not destroy my enemies when I make friends out of them?” is a quotation by Abraham Lincoln which expresses similar idea that I have written in the previous paragraph.

Many people reckon that those terrorists are Muslims.  But many Muslims decry that Muslim religion is for promoting peace and denounce killing other people as evil. What they lament is that many of their members are uneducated. Most of the agents that do the killing do so by blind faith in obedience to their misguided or vicious leaders.

This being the case, loving them (the followers) would mean sharing to them the enlightenment and education one needs to have to attain the purpose of life which is to be happy.

Loving the leaders of the terrorists, would mean treating them as human as we are. Because they are ‘us’ in them with the same love that God has shared to them in giving them life, and creating them to be happy as we are.  

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