Happily married?  You're Joking!

                                     Yes, if you are happy with your sex and sexuality

"The problem with most people is that they treat sexuality according  to how it suits them, according to their whims and desire, according to what their human reasoning dictates to them. This is the most common reason why you would fail in your sexuality or your marriage. Most people treat sexuality as something they can toy with. Most people enter marriage which is divinely established unworthily.  By unworthily I mean by their preconceived human idea on how they would conduct their marriage and not according to how God would want people to treat it.

What I have found is that if you are to be happy as a human being, you can not treat yourself alone. You cannot live by yourself alone. You cannot imprison yourself in your own world alone. Because God created man to be male and female, He has meant them to be social beings. As I have said earlier, this is verified in the need of man to have someone to talk to, to relate to, as has been exemplified in the movie “Castaway”. This is the last bastion of his sanity.

To be happy is to have someone you could relate to in love.

Although you have to treat every other human being as yourself to be happy, it is in your sexual partner that you would feel and experience the utmost joy and happiness in the expression of love. Because you are related to him or her not only as a person, but you are one with her or him in the body. The body has that quality as decisive criterion of reality. When you want to test whether what you are seeing is not imaginary but real, you probe it by trying to touch it. You cannot verify an object by touch unless that object is a body, a ‘rock-solid’ reality.

When your sexual partner accepted you by her/his “yes” as a person, all your veil of anticipation and imaginings gave way to the baring of fulfilment and realisation. All of this joy is finally crowned into a happy state by you being united not only as a person but also by being joined with her or him in the body. So they said that sexual intercourse is like heaven here on earth. Marriage is really meant to be that way by the Creator. Because it is the replica of the Divine nature of God who is the source of all happiness. You would find your marriage that way, had you entered it worthily and followed the order that God has meant it to be.

When you would have conducted your marriage according to God’s plan and order, you will find that your partner is a test of happiness. It would be him or her who could tell you whether what I am writing in this book about sexuality and happiness is true or not. It would be your sexual partner who could tell and testify to you whether what the world presents as an objective is the real thing that gives happiness or not; whether it be knowledge, power, money or riches, fame, honour, sex or virtue. It would be your partner who would tell you that love is the source of happiness and that the love is real and true because it is sourced from the real source of all real love that exists, and that is from God.

When you relate yourself to God, you would consider yourself not solely but as a unit with your partner. Your partner is your care before God, because your partner is your test of happiness. Happiness follows according as the love between you flows according as you conduct yourselves to the order that God has put in both of you. You would consider him or her as your better half, because you accept that happiness is all there is that you live for.

When all these orders happen according to what it was meant to be, you will find that sexuality for you and your partner is a source of enjoyment, life and happiness not only for yourselves but also for others, beginning with your family, then your community, then the world at large. If this world would have to be changed for a better, happy world, it would begin in you, as married man as one unit in being male and female.

It is in your choice and capacity to live life for what it was meant to be. It is in your choice to treat your partner as your better or bitter half, depending on how you conform to God’s order or not. Because of this choice you have all the hope to live life for what it was meant to be.

If you remember the story about the generators and turbine in a power-plant in the topic “How To Be Happy With Others”, to be a man for others is the way to enjoying your life to the full. This happens because like the working turbine you let flow the love of God through you to others. In your interaction with your partner, as a unit you become like that working turbine; you can give life to a city to make it fully alive. Your sexuality then becomes a source of life not only to both of you but also to those around you. That’s the way to become happy because you multiply love that is true as it flows from its true source, God Himself who first loved you in creating you.

As a rule of thumb, for you to be happy as a man, you could be happy only not in considering yourself only without considering your sexual partner. If you are to be happy completely, your partner should be happy with you.

This is the innovative way of thinking for you to follow so as to have a new happy life." (Excerpt from my book: New Light, New Life, New You!, please click on the link to get access to it.)